Why do we need to work on our relationship ?

3:01 AM Unknown 0 Comments


Relationships are not made in heaven.Its made by you and me. Sometimes intensionally. Sometimes unintensionally.

Thats why it always tend to break. But its not just the you and me who breaks the relation. Its you, me and the people around us.

Girl's part :

She is always worried about the security part...

Will she be able to love him till end ? will he love her till end ? If something goes wrong, will her family be there with her ?  Will she ever repent for her decision ?.....too many worries :(

Other than this there is something more that eats up a girl's mind...

She believes that her parents can always find someone better than her choice...its not that she believes so..but her parents made her believe by always finding faults in guys she finds. And promising her that they will find a prince for her...its a different story that the prince they find would be 5+ year older than her, would be having enough bank balance but torn shirts faded pants hairless head and huge tummy.

Its true that parents would be there with her till they die, but just to make sure that she has enough money to live, she is worshiping the same god, and her children is speaking same language....
Why would she spoil her life with someone whom she can never love, and who will never love her. I dont say that love would be there till end even if she married her boy friend, but it should be there atleast for sometime....she deserves to be with someone whom she thinks she should be with.

Thinking about all this she is worried and not confident to move on with the relationship....

So 'she' - your fault is that you always worry about what will happen tomorrow and not ready to take up anything that comes your way....not ready to leave your comfort zone for your love !!!

Boy's part :

Boys part is pretty less as 80% of the boys are ready to or rather hurry to be with the love of their lives.

Their first wrong step is that when they see only she and she as their life and nothing else matters for them...
So if its a campus affair...he will not concentrate on his studies...will not be interested in finding a job or never even think about settling down in life which is so important for his she.
This atittude of a guy will never go with a girls security worries and finally ends up in break up.

If its a matured releationship, then he thinks that she will easily be a part of his environment, without understanding that she is from a totally different place and coming in alone, trusting him and him only. She deserves to be treated as an angel not as a private property with life time waranty.

So 'he' - your fault is that you try to make her a part of you, but you not ready to be a part of her. And if something goes wrong you blame her and will never accept that it is your fault too, which will make her hate you more.

Parent's part :

Dad and Mom...you too play a major role here.

You are ready to accept someone whom you find in a matrimonial site or a news paper ad but not even ready to speak to your daughter's boy friend, whom she believes good for her.

You are ready to be with your daughter in all her good and bad times if she marries the one you say, but not the one she loves !!!! Isnt that selfish ?

You ask your daughter to adjust and compromise in arranged marriage, and why you blame her is she has to do the same in love marriage ?

Dad and Mom - your fault is that, you had a time to choose your partner..you compromised there, went for an arranged one and now you want to choose a partner for your daughter !! Its her turn now. Respect her and let she choose for herself.

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12:05 PM Unknown 0 Comments


yeaterday i was a bird. i could fly. i flew over land, mountain and ocean. i flew above clouds. i flew with the wind towards the sun. i flew above clouds towards stars.

yesterday i was a bell. i rang and i rang. i rang as if the thunder hits and i rang as if the twister blows. i rang into that world of those who loved silence. i rang into myself to make sure that i exist.

yesterday i was a river. i was always flowing. i took off footprints from all shores. i took off the memories of those who touched me. i took off your tears,your past and all your bad dreams.

yesterday i was a girl. i ate,i drank, i was cause of someones pleasure, then i died.

today am nothing. i have no wings. i have no sound. am dry.still dead.




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